This one thing can change your whole life…
Over the years I have read many self-improvement books, whether it be for building a personal business , self-development or mental discipline.
All of these books had one major lesson in common for a Successful life.
Crafting the SKILL of being comfortable with the uncomfortable.
We all have decisions to make everyday, with each one determining our path of Success.
The truth is we’re all naturally inclined to choose, “the easy way”.
As humans we naturally avoid confrontation and most try to stay out of the spotlight at work.
The uncomfortable causes discomfort, putting most in a submissive state of mind.
You don’t make it to the gym because is more comfortable to skip.
Eating Fast food is more comfortable than waiting to get home and cook.
As time goes on these decisions build up, causing depression , poor self-image and feelings leading to overall apathy.
You could say a persons level of success can be determined by the amount of uncomfortable and difficult decisions they have made.
This is one of the major reason higher level jobs pay out more.
You have to learn how to let go of the feelings of discomfort and fear.
Fear comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on.
This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now.
You are in the here and now, while your mind is in the future.
This creates an anxiety gap. And if you are identified with your mind and have lost touch with the power and simplicity of the Now, that anxiety gap will be your constant companion.
You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection, you can not cope with the future.
When you learn to take on the immediate demands of an uncomfortable decision or choice, success is inevitable.
This is easier said than done, which why it’s a skill to be learned.
Skills take time and can require years of practice to master.
Start by looking at the decision or choice that makes you feel uncomfortable and ask your self, “what it is about this situation specifically that is causing me discomfort?”
Lean to view these discomforts from an observer’s perspective.
Do not over analyze your feelings right away, only observe and identify what causes you discomfort.
Just by shifting your mind to become consciously aware of the problem allows you to build the skill of confronting the problem head-on.
Your feelings of discomfort holding you back or causing you to procrastinate do not define you.
The actions you take in the present moment define you in that very moment.
The feelings of discomfort come from thoughts of the past or future. They’re separate from you, learn that before anything else.
When you realize you’re not what you’re feeling but rather your feelings are mere illusions derived from past events or fear of the Future , you take a shift in self-consciousness.
You’re no longer the “thinker” but rather the “observer.”
This sets your mind up for success and you will learn to recognize these feelings of discomfort before they subconsciously overwhelm you.
You will learn with time to make rational decision’s without the influence of fear or anxiety that previous uncomfortable decision’s caused you.
And as you make better choices, before you know it, you’ll be living the kind of life that you always dreamed about.
This thought process will have a positive impact on all aspects of your life, moving forward.
Start improving right now…
My goal for you right now is to start thinking of smaller situations that cause you feelings of discomfort.
Next identify what you’re feeling specifically from those situations.
After that take on the problems head on.
Remember these thoughts of discomfort come from feelings of the past and future.
The feelings to not define you and with time this process will become easier.
Start this learning process with small situations of discomfort and move on to bigger situations of discomfort.
Start living a live free of the constant control of your emotions now .